love sms recent

  • No one escapes from love,
    No one escapes from love, 
    Neither the rich nor poor, 
    Because it takes to satisfy a heart, 
    We feel we'll never be apart.


  • Time will always fly, but ou
    Time will always fly, but our love will never die. Keep in touch and remeber me 



  • If a smile could be a raindrop
    If a smile could be a raindrop,I wish that it keeps raining throughout your life so there would be no place for tears in your life.




  •  What is a flower without 
     What is a flower without the sun, what is the earth without the sky. What am I without you, that is why I tell you , I love you





    Tomorrow there is an other da
    Tomorrow there is an other day.A day i'd rather spend with you....without you there is no joy, only pain! 



latest love sms

  • some times mu heart ask me
    some times mu heart ask me why i care of u why i miss u why i love u why s think of u why i want u then my mind answer me it is very smiple coz i love u




  • You know dat i wont do u rong,
    You know dat i wont do u rong, dis love i feel is far too strong, cuz now ive waited far too long, u cant just lead me on, dont jus talk..Make it Happen 




  • You r like the Sunshine so
    You r like the Sunshine so warm,You r like Sugar so sweet,You r like You....& thats the reason why i love u.......



  • I,Me, Myself, Yes me,I
    I,Me, Myself, Yes me,I
    Really
    Truly
    Unmistakably
    Unstoppably
    Unavoidably
    Crazily, Think about you!




  • The best and most beautiful
    The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched. They must be felt with the heart


latest love sms 1

1.hey! if the sun forgets 
hey! if the sun forgets shining if the moon forgets lighting if the fishes forget swimming if the wind forgets blowing if the heart forgets breathing if the cloud forgets crying and if the birds forget flying u have 2 be sure that i can nver forget u



2.red is 4 blood,blood 
red is 4 blood,blood is 4 heart ,heart is 4 love,love is 4 u and ur 4 me




3.God saw me hungry he created 
God saw me hungry he created pizza he saw me thirsty he created pesi he saw me in dark he created light and he saw me without girl friend he created u now it is the time 2 love me 



4.what is love? it is a model
what is love? it is a model auxilary verb,it shows an action which didn't happen befor now used in isqh and mohabat sentences. Ex i love u very much 


5.eyes without tears,tears 
eyes without tears,tears without love,love without a care,a care without a heart,a heart without beat,a beat without u,u without me.now how could that be possible?

latest sms

  •  kasur na unka hai na mera,
    hum donohi rishton ki rasmein nibhate rahe
    wo dosti ka ehsaas jatate rahe  
    hum mohabbat ko dil mein chupate rahe muskan

    TUMHARE SATH RAHON CHAND BAAM PAR DEKHON
    TUMHARE SANG HI MAIN EID KA MANZAR DEKHON
    TUMHARE NAM SE BADLAY SHAYAD TAQDEER MERI
    TUMHARA NAM MAIN HATHON PAY SAJA KAR DEKHON
  • Chale gaye ho dur kuch pal ke liye,Dur rehkar bhi karib ho har pal ke liye,
  • Kaise yaad na aaye aapki ek pal ke liye,
  • Jab dil me ho aap harpal ke liye........
  • tere hontoon pe saj jaon dua honay ko ge chahta hai,
    mera duniya bhula kar bas tera honay ko ge chahta hai,
    yun sab ke samne ithkheliyan karti hai ye tujh se,
    ke beiraada he hawa honay ko ge chahta hai.

    You are a GHONCHU.. 
    G-reat 
    H-ot 
    O-ne in million 
    N-aughty 
    C-ute 
    H-umble 
    U-nique
    Zyada khush mat ho, hai to tu ghonchu

    Saathi sirf vo to nahin hota jo jeewan bhar saath nibhaye, Saathi to vo hota hai jo jeewan ke kuch palon mein hi jeewan bhar ka saath de jaaye. Gud Day. 

latest sms

  • Maine kaha "Dil Ruba" 
    Usne kaha balance bhijwa
    Maine kaha "Paise Nahi" 
    Usne kaha "Kaise nahi" 
    Maine kaha "Mehangai Hai"
    Usne kaha "Ja aaj se tu mera bhai ha

  • HAMARI DOSTI RAYMOND JAISI NAHIN... SINCE 1925 ,
    PEPSI JAISI BHI NAHIN , KE YE DIL MAANGE MORE...
    YE HOGI L.I.C. JAISI , 
    JINDAGI KE SAATH BHI , JINDAGI KE BAAD BHI....



    boy says to girl main tum ko without tuch kiya kiss karoo ga ....girl says ye to ho hi nahi sakta....boy says to lag hai 20 20 rupay ki .... girl says ok....boy kissed girl titely....girl says tum ne to mujay tuch kiya hai .....boy say ye loo 20 rupay noman 

    Newtons First Law of ishq
    the force applied while proposing a girl by a boy is equal and opposite
  • to the force applied by the girl while using her sandals
  • Newtons 2nd law of ishq
    the rate of change of intensity of love of a girl towards a boy is
    directly proportional to the instantaneous bank balance of the boy and
    the direction of this love is same to as increament or decreament of the
    bank balance. 

  • Newtons First Law of Ishq
  • a boy in love with a girl, continue to be in love with her and a girl
    in love with a boy, continue to be in love with him, untill on unless
    any external agent(brother or father of the gal) comes into play and
  • break the legs of the boy.

  • Newtons Law of Romance
    LOVE CAN NEITHER BE CREATED NOR BE DESTROYED,
    IT CAN ONLY BE CHANGED FROM
  • ONE GIRL FRIEND TO ANOTHER...


  •  itne choti nhi dosti apni,
    kaise soch liya k keenara a gieya
    ho gai mobile main roshni,
    aur sms humara a gieya.

    4 roses just for you,bcoz u r special person.
    1st rose for frdship,
    2nd rose for good luck,
    3rd rose for happiness
    aur last kaan ke upper lagana mast lagega.



Love Quotation used for sms


Love and cough can not be hidden - George Herbert


Love is saying yes to belonging - David Steindl Rast


Once our hearts open, all existence appears beautiful & harmonious - Tarthang Tulku


Love is an intensification, fullness, wholeness of life. Love is our true destiny - Thomas Merton


Pains of love be sweeter far than all other pleasures are - John Dryden


Be joyful because it is humanly possible - Wendell berry


Love makes those young whom age chills and whom he finds young , it will keep young


It is a wonderful seasoning of all enjoyments to think of those we love - Moliere


What permeates the entire being like an inexhaustible stream, can be called love - Kabir

10 
Love those who love you - Voltaire

11 
Love is friendship set to music - Edward pollock

12 
Absence is to love what wind is to fire; it extinguishes the small and rekindles the great - Comte

13 
Happy is he who dares courageously to defend what he loves - Ovid

14 
Love is the enchanted dawn of every heart - Alphonse de lamartine

15 
Love is a faith and one faith leads to another - Henri Frederic Amiel

16 
Let your task be to render yourself worthy of love for your own happiness than for that of another

17 
Home is where character is built, where sacrifices to contribute to the happiness of others are made

18 
The joy of life is variety; the tenderest love requires to be renewed by intervals of absence

19 
Where there is love, there is no imposition - Albert Einstein

20 
Love brings much happiness, much more so than pining for someone brings pain - Albert Einstein

21 
Love has always been the most important business in my life, I should say the only one - Stendhal

22 
To love for the sake of being loved is human, but to love for the sake of loving is angelic

23 
The love of liberty is the love of others; the love of power is the love of ourselves

24 
A joyful heart is the normal result of a heart burning with love - Mother Teresa

25 
It is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all - Samuel Butler

26 
Falling in love is not the most stupid thing people do, but gravitation is not responsible

27 
Intense love does not measure, it just gives - Mother Teresa

28 
Love: Softening of the heartery

29 
Loving must be as normal as breathing and living, day after day until our death - Mother Teresa

30 
In dreams and love there are no impossibilities - Janos Arany

31 
We learn only from those we love - Johann Wolfgang Eckermann

32 
The ultimate lesson is to learn unconditional love, not only for others but ourselves as well

33 
Love reckons hours for months, and days for years; And every little absence is an age

34 
We are all born for love. It is the principle of existence, and its only end - Benjamin Disraeli

35 
To love is to make of one’s heart a swinging door - Howard Thurman

36 
Try to remember to forget anger, worry & regret. Live while you have life, Love while u have love

37 
Love is something that you can leave behind when you die. It is that powerful - John Lame Deer

38 
Try saying please, thank you and do you mind, this is the language of love - Jill Briscoe

39 
If you love somebody enough, you can still hear the laughter after they are gone - Al Baker

40 
Perhaps the chief business of life is simply to learn how to love - Marsha Sinetar

41 
Love stretches your heart and makes you big inside - Margaret Walker

42 
The reduction of the universe to a single being, the expansion of a single being even to God is love

43 
It is impossible to love and be wise - Francis Bacon

44 
Love is a credulous thing - Ovid

45 
Of all forms of caution, caution in love is the most fatal to true happiness - Bertrand Russell

46 
Love! That in some respect, makes a beast a man, in some a man a beast - William Shakespeare

47 
Love like ours can never die - Rudyard Kipling

48 
Love is the greatest pleasure open to man - Seder de Rabbi Eliyahu Rabbah

49 
He who truly loves another can read his thoughts - The Koretser Rabbi

50 
Love cannot endure indifference. It needs to be wanted. Like a lamp it needs to be fed oil of heart

51 
Love turns one person into two; and two into one - Isaac Abravanel

52 
Love renders one blind and deaf - Ibn Gabirol

53 
The pleasure of love is in loving. We are happier in the passion we feel than in that we inspire

54 
A cheerful face makes for love - Orhot Tsadikim

55 
We love the things we love for what they are - Robert Frost

56 
Earth’s the right place for love: I don’t know where its likely to go better - Robert Frost

57 
Love is a medicine for the sickness of the world; a prescription often given, too rarely taken

58 
My bounty is as boundless as sea, My love as deep; the more I give to thee, the more I have

59 
One does not fall into love; one grows into love, and love grows in him - Karl Menninger

60 
All love is sweet, Given or returned. Common as light is love, And its familiar voice wearies never

61 
And all for love, and nothing for reward - Edmund Spenser

62 
There is music in beauty & the silent note which cupid strikes, far sweeter than sound of instrument

63 
Till it has loved, no man or woman can become itself - Emily Dickinson

64 
I am glad it cannot happen twice, the fever of first love - Daphne du Maurier

65 
It is not a matter of thinking a great deal but of loving a great deal - Saint Teresa of Avila

66 
Lovers who love truly do not write down their happiness - Anatole France

67 
Let no one who loves be called unhappy. Even love unreturned has its rainbow

68 
All mankind love a lover - Ralph Waldo Emerson

69 
I love the idea of there being two sexes, don’t you? - James Thurber

70 
For this is wisdom: to love, to live, To take what fate, or the Gods, may give - Laurence Hope

72 
Such ever was love’s way; to rise, it stoops. - Robert Browning

73 
Love begets love. This torment is my joy - Theodore Roethke

74 
For in my mind, of all mankind I love but you alone

75 
Little deeds of kindness, Little words of love, Help make earth happy like heaven above

76 
When silence speaks for love she has much to say - Richard Garnett

77 
There is no love which does not become help - Paul Tillich

78 
Love is the reward of love - Johann von Schiller

79 
Mature love says: I need you because I love you - Erich Fromm

80 
Love knows not its depth until the hour of separation - Kahill Gibran

81 
Where love is concerned, too much is not even enough - Pierre Augustin de Beaumarchais

82 
Love is all we have, the only way that each can help the other - Euripides

83 
Delicacy is to love what grace is to beauty - Madame de Maintenon

84 
It is love, not reason, that is stronger than death - Thomas Mann

85 
What is life without the radiance of love? - Johann von Schiller

86 
Love consists in this, that 2 solitudes protect & border & salute each other - Rainer Marla Rilke

87 
One word frees us of all the weight and pain of life: that word is love - Sophocles

88 
O, tell her, brief is life but love is long - Alfred, Lord Tennyson

89 
Love conquers all: and let us too surrender to love - Virgil

90 
The happy man is he who lives the life of love, not for the honors it brings, but for the life itself

91 
Love is the most freely willed of any activity of which we are able to think - Emil Brunner

92 
Let the burden be never so heavy, love makes it light - Robert Burton

93 
Nothing cures like time and love - Laura Nyro

94 
When a man is in love he endures more than at other times; he submits to everything.

95 
Love is not looking into another’s eyes but looking together in the same direction

96 
Oh what a dear ravishing thing is the beginning of an amour - Aphra Behn

97 
All, everything that I understand, I understand only because of love - Leo Tolstoy

98 
Beware you be not swallowed up in books! An ounce of love is worth a pound of knowledge.

99 
Sometimes you know in your heart you love someone, but you have to go away to figure it out

100 
We love being in love, that’s the truth on it - William Makepeace Thackeray

101 
Where you love somebody, and that person loves you, that’s the most beautiful place in the world

102 
I do love nothing in the world so well as you - William Shakespeare

103 
Love is, above all else, the gift of oneself - Jean Anouilh

104 
Marriage is popular because it combines the maximum of temptation with the maximum opportunity

105 
Come the wild weather, come sleet, or snow, We will stand by each other, However it blow

106 
Who can give a law to lovers? Love is a greater law unto itself - Boethius

107 
No cord, nor cable can forcibly draw, or hold so fast, as love can do with a twined thread

108 
How do I love thee? Let me count the ways - Elizabeth Barrett Browning

109 
Love is friendship plus sex - Havelock Ellis

110 
They say love takes wit away from those who have it, and gives it to those who have none

111 
Come live with me, and be my love, And we will all the pleasures prove - Christopher Marlowe

112 
No, there’s nothing half so sweet in life As love’s young dream - Thomas Moore

113 
Love one another, but make not a bond of love: let it be a moving sea between shores of souls

114 
Love is more than gold or great riches - John Lydgate

115 
What will survive of us is love - Philip Larkin

116 
Love means that the attributes of the lover are changed into those of the beloved

117 
In love we find a joy which is ultimate because it is the ultimate truth

118 
The greatest tragedy of life is not that men perish, but that they cease to love - Somerset Maugham

119 
For you see, each day I love you more, Today more than yesterday and less than tomorrow

120 
One Swallow may not make a summer, but a pair of baby blue eyes can cause a fall

121 
Riches take wings, comforts vanish, hope withers away, but love stays with us - Lew Wallace

122 
Escape me? Never Beloved - Robert Browning

123 
You must always be a waggle with love - D.H Lawrence

124 
To love someone deeply gives you strength. Being loved by someone gives courage - Lao Tzu

125 
Now join your hands, and with your hands your hearts - William Shakespeare

126 
What the heart knows today, the head will understand tomorrow - James Stephens

127 
Love is not only something you feel. It is something you do - David Wilkerson

128 
There as my heart is set, there will I wive - Geoffrey Chaucer

129 
All true love is grounded on esteem - George Villers

130 
As your wedding ring wears, you will wear off your cares - Thomas Fuller

131 
Knit your hearts with an unslipping knot - William Shakespeare

132 
Their hearts are in the right place - Benjamin Disraeli

133 
Love must be reinvented - Arthur Rimbaud

134 
I know of only one duty, and that is to love - Albert Camus

135 
Something moves me to love, and I do know I love, but know not how or why - Alexander Brome

136 
In love there is always one who kisses and one who offers the cheek - French Proverb

137 
Love has but one word and it never repeats itself - Henri Lacordaire

138 
Love wakes men, once a lifetime each - Coventry Patmore

139 
The heart that loves is always young - Greek Proverb

140 
At the touch of love everyone becomes a poet - Plato

141 
By accident of fortune, man may rule the world for a time, but by virtue of love he may rule forever

142 
Lovers are always in a hurry like a racing river - Ben Ames Williams

143 
Love is shown in your deeds, not in your words - Fr. Jerome Cummings

144 
Knowledge, love, power - There is the complete life - Henri Frederic Amiel

145 
The joy of the good, the wonder of the wise, the amusement of the gods - Plato on love

146 
Love is a gracious and beautiful erotic art - havelock Ellis

147 
Treasure each other in the recognition that we do not know how long we shall have each other

148 
Sex appeal is the keynote of our civilization - Henri Bergson

149 
Love is as necessary to human beings as food and shelter - Aldous Huxley

150 
Real love is only possible in the freedom of society; & freedom is only possible when love is reality

151 
What love does is to arm. It arms the worth of life in spite of life - Archibald MacLeish

152 
To love is to believe, to hope, to know; Its an essay, a taste of heaven below - Edmund Waller

153 
Work and love - these are the basics - Theodore Reik

154 
Love is the salt of life - John Sheffield

155 
Love spends his all, and still hath store - P.J Bailey

156 
Love in its essence is spiritual fire - Emanuel Swedenborg

157 
Now I know what love is - Virgil

158 
Where love is, there’s no lack - Richard Brome

159 
Love teaches letters to a man unlearned - Euripides

160 
Love is so very timid when its new - Henry James Byron

161 
Value each lover according to the gifts he brings - Ovid

162 
Until I truly loved I was alone - Caroline Norton

163 
The man that loves & laughs must sure do well - Alexander Pope

164 
Love is always in the mood of believing in miracles - J.C Powys

165 
Love’s too precious to be lost - Alfred, Lord Tennyson

166 
You must get your living by loving - Henry David Thoreau

167 
We always believe our first love is our last, and our last love, our first

168 
A loving heart is the beginning of all knowledge - Thomas Carlyle

169 
What is love ? Two souls & one flesh. Friendship ? Two bodies and one soul - Joseph Roux

170 
We were two and had but one heart - Francois Villon

171 
Those who love deeply never grow old; they may die of old age, but they die young - Arthur wing

172 
Love stoops as fondly as he soars - Henry Wadsworth Longfellow

173 
Love is a beautiful dream - William Sharp

174 
Love is desiring to give what is our own to another and feeling his delight as our own

175 
To love is to know the sacrifices which eternity exacts from life - John Oliver hobbes

176 
Love and desire are the spirit’s wings to great deeds - Johann Wolfgang Von Goethe

177 
Love keeps the cold out better than a cloak. It serves for food and raiment - Henry Longfellow

178 
Love adds a precious seeing to the eye - William Shakespeare

179 
Take love away from life and you take away its pleasures - Moliere

180 
Love is the strange bewilderment which overtakes one person on account of another person

181 
Whoever lives true life, will love true love - Elizabeth Barrett Browning

182 
Love, which cannot be paid but with love - Edward Fenton

183 
Tradition wears a snowy beard. Romance is always young - John Greenleaf Whittier

184 
The only present love demands is love - John Gay

185 
Love prays devoutly when it prays for love - Thomas Hood

186 
To be beloved, love - Decimus Magnus Ausonius

187 
There is no heaven like mutual love - George Granville

188 
There is no pleasure like the pain of being loved, and loving - W.M Praed

189 
Love rules his kingdom without a sword - George Herbert

190 
Talking of love is making it - W.G. Benham

191 
The site of lovers feedeth those in love - William Shakespeare

192 
There is no remedy for love but to love more - Henry David Thoreau

193 
Love has a thousand varied notes to move the human heart - George Crabbe

194 
Habit causes love - Titus Lucretius Carus

195 
Love will find its way through paths where wolves would fear to prey - Henry James Byron

196 
One cant choose when one is going to love - Henrik Ibsen

197 
Love and laughter hold us together - Ingrid Trobisch

198 
Chance cannot change my love nor time impair - Robert Browning

199 
He is not a lover who does not love forever - Euripides

200 
Think of my loyal love, my last adieu; absence & love are naught if we are true - Alfred de Musset

201 
When love is at its best, one loves so much that he cannot forget - Helen Hunt Jackson

202 
Love, that all gentle hearts so quickly know - Dante Alighieri

203 
True love is the ripe fruit of a lifetime - Alphonse de Lamartine

204 
Love is love for evermore - Alfred, Lord Tennyson

205 
Familiar acts are beautiful through love - Percy Bysshe Shelley

206 
As I continue my talks with her, I become aware that, in my heart, A window is opening

207 
Love is best - Robert Browning

208 
Love is the mortar that holds the human structure together - Karen Casey

209 
Love is that which exists to do good, not merely to get good

210 
Love is an irresistible desire to be irresistibly desired - Robert Frost

211 
If love be timid, it is not true - Spanish proverb

212 
When love comes, it comes without effort, like perfect weather - Helen Yglesias

213 
Lovers recreate the world - Carter Heyward

214 
Two persons love in one another the future good which they aid one another to unfold

215 
In short, I will part with anything for you but you - Lady Mary Wortley Montagu

216 
There is no question for which you are not the answer - Bonnie Zucker Goldsmith

217 
If I had never met him, I would have dreamed him to being - Anzia Yezierska

218 
Whatever our souls are made of, his and mine are the same - Emily Bronte

219 
We never leave each other. When does your mouth say goodbye to your heart?

220 
When first we fall in love, we feel we know all about life, and perhaps we are right

221 
It was a love like a chord from bach, of such pure gravity - Nina Cassian

222 
Him that I love, I wish to be free, even from me - Anne Morrow Lindbergh

223 
Love needs to be proved by action - Saint Therese of Lisieux

224 
Before we love with our heart, we already love with our imagination - Louise Colet

225 
Love is the white light of emotion. - Diane Ackerman

226 
Love is a fruit in season at all times - Mother Teresa

227 
We love because its the only true adventure - Nikki Giovanni

228 
Love is the wild care of existence - Rita Mae Brown

229 
Love is the only thing that keeps me sane - Sue Townsend

230 
I always want to be in love, always. Its like being a tuning fork - Edna O’Brien

231 
Love is repaid by love alone - Saint Therese of Lisieux

232 
Till I loved, I never lived enough - Emily Dickinson

233 
What we have once enjoyed we can never lose. All that we love deeply becomes a part of us.

234 
It is impossible to repent of love. The sin of love does not exist - Muriel Spark

235 
Love is the same as like except you feel sexier - Judith Viorst

236 
Whoso loves Believes the impossible - Elizabeth Barrett Browning

237 
In love, everything is two and everything strives to be one - Octavio Paz

238 
Love knows hidden paths

239 
Love is a mutual self giving which ends in self recovery - Bishop Fulton J. Sheen

240 
How it improves people for us when we begin to love them - David Grayson

241 
Love for one person implies love for man as such - Erich Fromm

242 
Love between a man and woman is really just a kind of breathing - D.H. Lawrence

243 
Respect is love in plain clothes - Frankie Byrne

244 
I will be the pattern of all patience - William Shakespeare

245 
Never change when love has found its home - Sextus Aurelius Propertius

246 
Love knows nothing of order - Saint Jerome

247 
Love comforteth like sunshine after rain - William Shakespeare

248 
Love sought is good, but giv’n unsought is better - William Shakespeare

249 
If there is anything better than to be loved, it is loving

250 
The way to love anything is to realize that it might be lost - Gilbert K. Chesterton

251 
I never knew how to worship until I knew how to love - Henry Ward Beecher

  
 





Love and cough can not be hidden - George Herbert


Love is saying yes to belonging - David Steindl Rast


Once our hearts open, all existence appears beautiful & harmonious - Tarthang Tulku


Love is an intensification, fullness, wholeness of life. Love is our true destiny - Thomas Merton


Pains of love be sweeter far than all other pleasures are - John Dryden


Be joyful because it is humanly possible - Wendell berry


Love makes those young whom age chills and whom he finds young , it will keep young


It is a wonderful seasoning of all enjoyments to think of those we love - Moliere


What permeates the entire being like an inexhaustible stream, can be called love - Kabir

10 
Love those who love you - Voltaire

11 
Love is friendship set to music - Edward pollock

12 
Absence is to love what wind is to fire; it extinguishes the small and rekindles the great - Comte

13 
Happy is he who dares courageously to defend what he loves - Ovid

14 
Love is the enchanted dawn of every heart - Alphonse de lamartine

15 
Love is a faith and one faith leads to another - Henri Frederic Amiel

16 
Let your task be to render yourself worthy of love for your own happiness than for that of another

17 
Home is where character is built, where sacrifices to contribute to the happiness of others are made

18 
The joy of life is variety; the tenderest love requires to be renewed by intervals of absence

19 
Where there is love, there is no imposition - Albert Einstein

20 
Love brings much happiness, much more so than pining for someone brings pain - Albert Einstein

21 
Love has always been the most important business in my life, I should say the only one - Stendhal

22 
To love for the sake of being loved is human, but to love for the sake of loving is angelic

23 
The love of liberty is the love of others; the love of power is the love of ourselves

24 
A joyful heart is the normal result of a heart burning with love - Mother Teresa

25 
It is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all - Samuel Butler

26 
Falling in love is not the most stupid thing people do, but gravitation is not responsible

27 
Intense love does not measure, it just gives - Mother Teresa

28 
Love: Softening of the heartery

29 
Loving must be as normal as breathing and living, day after day until our death - Mother Teresa

30 
In dreams and love there are no impossibilities - Janos Arany

31 
We learn only from those we love - Johann Wolfgang Eckermann

32 
The ultimate lesson is to learn unconditional love, not only for others but ourselves as well

33 
Love reckons hours for months, and days for years; And every little absence is an age

34 
We are all born for love. It is the principle of existence, and its only end - Benjamin Disraeli

35 
To love is to make of one’s heart a swinging door - Howard Thurman

36 
Try to remember to forget anger, worry & regret. Live while you have life, Love while u have love

37 
Love is something that you can leave behind when you die. It is that powerful - John Lame Deer

38 
Try saying please, thank you and do you mind, this is the language of love - Jill Briscoe

39 
If you love somebody enough, you can still hear the laughter after they are gone - Al Baker

40 
Perhaps the chief business of life is simply to learn how to love - Marsha Sinetar

41 
Love stretches your heart and makes you big inside - Margaret Walker

42 
The reduction of the universe to a single being, the expansion of a single being even to God is love

43 
It is impossible to love and be wise - Francis Bacon

44 
Love is a credulous thing - Ovid

45 
Of all forms of caution, caution in love is the most fatal to true happiness - Bertrand Russell

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Love! That in some respect, makes a beast a man, in some a man a beast - William Shakespeare

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Love like ours can never die - Rudyard Kipling

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Love is the greatest pleasure open to man - Seder de Rabbi Eliyahu Rabbah

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He who truly loves another can read his thoughts - The Koretser Rabbi

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Love cannot endure indifference. It needs to be wanted. Like a lamp it needs to be fed oil of heart

51 
Love turns one person into two; and two into one - Isaac Abravanel

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Love renders one blind and deaf - Ibn Gabirol

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The pleasure of love is in loving. We are happier in the passion we feel than in that we inspire

54 
A cheerful face makes for love - Orhot Tsadikim

55 
We love the things we love for what they are - Robert Frost

56 
Earth’s the right place for love: I don’t know where its likely to go better - Robert Frost

57 
Love is a medicine for the sickness of the world; a prescription often given, too rarely taken

58 
My bounty is as boundless as sea, My love as deep; the more I give to thee, the more I have

59 
One does not fall into love; one grows into love, and love grows in him - Karl Menninger

60 
All love is sweet, Given or returned. Common as light is love, And its familiar voice wearies never

61 
And all for love, and nothing for reward - Edmund Spenser

62 
There is music in beauty & the silent note which cupid strikes, far sweeter than sound of instrument

63 
Till it has loved, no man or woman can become itself - Emily Dickinson

64 
I am glad it cannot happen twice, the fever of first love - Daphne du Maurier

65 
It is not a matter of thinking a great deal but of loving a great deal - Saint Teresa of Avila

66 
Lovers who love truly do not write down their happiness - Anatole France

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Let no one who loves be called unhappy. Even love unreturned has its rainbow

68 
All mankind love a lover - Ralph Waldo Emerson

69 
I love the idea of there being two sexes, don’t you? - James Thurber

70 
For this is wisdom: to love, to live, To take what fate, or the Gods, may give - Laurence Hope

72 
Such ever was love’s way; to rise, it stoops. - Robert Browning

73 
Love begets love. This torment is my joy - Theodore Roethke

74 
For in my mind, of all mankind I love but you alone

75 
Little deeds of kindness, Little words of love, Help make earth happy like heaven above

76 
When silence speaks for love she has much to say - Richard Garnett

77 
There is no love which does not become help - Paul Tillich

78 
Love is the reward of love - Johann von Schiller

79 
Mature love says: I need you because I love you - Erich Fromm

80 
Love knows not its depth until the hour of separation - Kahill Gibran

81 
Where love is concerned, too much is not even enough - Pierre Augustin de Beaumarchais

82 
Love is all we have, the only way that each can help the other - Euripides

83 
Delicacy is to love what grace is to beauty - Madame de Maintenon

84 
It is love, not reason, that is stronger than death - Thomas Mann

85 
What is life without the radiance of love? - Johann von Schiller

86 
Love consists in this, that 2 solitudes protect & border & salute each other - Rainer Marla Rilke

87 
One word frees us of all the weight and pain of life: that word is love - Sophocles

88 
O, tell her, brief is life but love is long - Alfred, Lord Tennyson

89 
Love conquers all: and let us too surrender to love - Virgil

90 
The happy man is he who lives the life of love, not for the honors it brings, but for the life itself

91 
Love is the most freely willed of any activity of which we are able to think - Emil Brunner

92 
Let the burden be never so heavy, love makes it light - Robert Burton

93 
Nothing cures like time and love - Laura Nyro

94 
When a man is in love he endures more than at other times; he submits to everything.

95 
Love is not looking into another’s eyes but looking together in the same direction

96 
Oh what a dear ravishing thing is the beginning of an amour - Aphra Behn

97 
All, everything that I understand, I understand only because of love - Leo Tolstoy

98 
Beware you be not swallowed up in books! An ounce of love is worth a pound of knowledge.

99 
Sometimes you know in your heart you love someone, but you have to go away to figure it out

100 
We love being in love, that’s the truth on it - William Makepeace Thackeray

101 
Where you love somebody, and that person loves you, that’s the most beautiful place in the world

102 
I do love nothing in the world so well as you - William Shakespeare

103 
Love is, above all else, the gift of oneself - Jean Anouilh

104 
Marriage is popular because it combines the maximum of temptation with the maximum opportunity

105 
Come the wild weather, come sleet, or snow, We will stand by each other, However it blow

106 
Who can give a law to lovers? Love is a greater law unto itself - Boethius

107 
No cord, nor cable can forcibly draw, or hold so fast, as love can do with a twined thread

108 
How do I love thee? Let me count the ways - Elizabeth Barrett Browning

109 
Love is friendship plus sex - Havelock Ellis

110 
They say love takes wit away from those who have it, and gives it to those who have none

111 
Come live with me, and be my love, And we will all the pleasures prove - Christopher Marlowe

112 
No, there’s nothing half so sweet in life As love’s young dream - Thomas Moore

113 
Love one another, but make not a bond of love: let it be a moving sea between shores of souls

114 
Love is more than gold or great riches - John Lydgate

115 
What will survive of us is love - Philip Larkin

116 
Love means that the attributes of the lover are changed into those of the beloved

117 
In love we find a joy which is ultimate because it is the ultimate truth

118 
The greatest tragedy of life is not that men perish, but that they cease to love - Somerset Maugham

119 
For you see, each day I love you more, Today more than yesterday and less than tomorrow

120 
One Swallow may not make a summer, but a pair of baby blue eyes can cause a fall

121 
Riches take wings, comforts vanish, hope withers away, but love stays with us - Lew Wallace

122 
Escape me? Never Beloved - Robert Browning

123 
You must always be a waggle with love - D.H Lawrence

124 
To love someone deeply gives you strength. Being loved by someone gives courage - Lao Tzu

125 
Now join your hands, and with your hands your hearts - William Shakespeare

126 
What the heart knows today, the head will understand tomorrow - James Stephens

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Love is not only something you feel. It is something you do - David Wilkerson

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There as my heart is set, there will I wive - Geoffrey Chaucer

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All true love is grounded on esteem - George Villers

130 
As your wedding ring wears, you will wear off your cares - Thomas Fuller

131 
Knit your hearts with an unslipping knot - William Shakespeare

132 
Their hearts are in the right place - Benjamin Disraeli

133 
Love must be reinvented - Arthur Rimbaud

134 
I know of only one duty, and that is to love - Albert Camus

135 
Something moves me to love, and I do know I love, but know not how or why - Alexander Brome

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In love there is always one who kisses and one who offers the cheek - French Proverb

137 
Love has but one word and it never repeats itself - Henri Lacordaire

138 
Love wakes men, once a lifetime each - Coventry Patmore

139 
The heart that loves is always young - Greek Proverb

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At the touch of love everyone becomes a poet - Plato

141 
By accident of fortune, man may rule the world for a time, but by virtue of love he may rule forever

142 
Lovers are always in a hurry like a racing river - Ben Ames Williams

143 
Love is shown in your deeds, not in your words - Fr. Jerome Cummings

144 
Knowledge, love, power - There is the complete life - Henri Frederic Amiel

145 
The joy of the good, the wonder of the wise, the amusement of the gods - Plato on love

146 
Love is a gracious and beautiful erotic art - havelock Ellis

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Treasure each other in the recognition that we do not know how long we shall have each other

148 
Sex appeal is the keynote of our civilization - Henri Bergson

149 
Love is as necessary to human beings as food and shelter - Aldous Huxley

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Real love is only possible in the freedom of society; & freedom is only possible when love is reality

151 
What love does is to arm. It arms the worth of life in spite of life - Archibald MacLeish

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To love is to believe, to hope, to know; Its an essay, a taste of heaven below - Edmund Waller

153 
Work and love - these are the basics - Theodore Reik

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Love is the salt of life - John Sheffield

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Love spends his all, and still hath store - P.J Bailey

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Love in its essence is spiritual fire - Emanuel Swedenborg

157 
Now I know what love is - Virgil

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Where love is, there’s no lack - Richard Brome

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Love teaches letters to a man unlearned - Euripides

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Love is so very timid when its new - Henry James Byron

161 
Value each lover according to the gifts he brings - Ovid

162 
Until I truly loved I was alone - Caroline Norton

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The man that loves & laughs must sure do well - Alexander Pope

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Love is always in the mood of believing in miracles - J.C Powys

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Love’s too precious to be lost - Alfred, Lord Tennyson

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You must get your living by loving - Henry David Thoreau

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We always believe our first love is our last, and our last love, our first

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A loving heart is the beginning of all knowledge - Thomas Carlyle

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What is love ? Two souls & one flesh. Friendship ? Two bodies and one soul - Joseph Roux

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We were two and had but one heart - Francois Villon

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Those who love deeply never grow old; they may die of old age, but they die young - Arthur wing

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Love stoops as fondly as he soars - Henry Wadsworth Longfellow

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Love is a beautiful dream - William Sharp

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Love is desiring to give what is our own to another and feeling his delight as our own

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To love is to know the sacrifices which eternity exacts from life - John Oliver hobbes

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Love and desire are the spirit’s wings to great deeds - Johann Wolfgang Von Goethe

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Love keeps the cold out better than a cloak. It serves for food and raiment - Henry Longfellow

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Love adds a precious seeing to the eye - William Shakespeare

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Take love away from life and you take away its pleasures - Moliere

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Love is the strange bewilderment which overtakes one person on account of another person

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Whoever lives true life, will love true love - Elizabeth Barrett Browning

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Love, which cannot be paid but with love - Edward Fenton

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Tradition wears a snowy beard. Romance is always young - John Greenleaf Whittier

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The only present love demands is love - John Gay

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Love prays devoutly when it prays for love - Thomas Hood

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To be beloved, love - Decimus Magnus Ausonius

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There is no heaven like mutual love - George Granville

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There is no pleasure like the pain of being loved, and loving - W.M Praed

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Love rules his kingdom without a sword - George Herbert

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Talking of love is making it - W.G. Benham

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The site of lovers feedeth those in love - William Shakespeare

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There is no remedy for love but to love more - Henry David Thoreau

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Love has a thousand varied notes to move the human heart - George Crabbe

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Habit causes love - Titus Lucretius Carus

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Love will find its way through paths where wolves would fear to prey - Henry James Byron

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One cant choose when one is going to love - Henrik Ibsen

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Love and laughter hold us together - Ingrid Trobisch

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Chance cannot change my love nor time impair - Robert Browning

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He is not a lover who does not love forever - Euripides

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Think of my loyal love, my last adieu; absence & love are naught if we are true - Alfred de Musset

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When love is at its best, one loves so much that he cannot forget - Helen Hunt Jackson

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Love, that all gentle hearts so quickly know - Dante Alighieri

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True love is the ripe fruit of a lifetime - Alphonse de Lamartine

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Love is love for evermore - Alfred, Lord Tennyson

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Familiar acts are beautiful through love - Percy Bysshe Shelley

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As I continue my talks with her, I become aware that, in my heart, A window is opening

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Love is best - Robert Browning

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Love is the mortar that holds the human structure together - Karen Casey

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Love is that which exists to do good, not merely to get good

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Love is an irresistible desire to be irresistibly desired - Robert Frost

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If love be timid, it is not true - Spanish proverb

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When love comes, it comes without effort, like perfect weather - Helen Yglesias

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Lovers recreate the world - Carter Heyward

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Two persons love in one another the future good which they aid one another to unfold

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In short, I will part with anything for you but you - Lady Mary Wortley Montagu

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There is no question for which you are not the answer - Bonnie Zucker Goldsmith

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If I had never met him, I would have dreamed him to being - Anzia Yezierska

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Whatever our souls are made of, his and mine are the same - Emily Bronte

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We never leave each other. When does your mouth say goodbye to your heart?

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When first we fall in love, we feel we know all about life, and perhaps we are right

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It was a love like a chord from bach, of such pure gravity - Nina Cassian

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Him that I love, I wish to be free, even from me - Anne Morrow Lindbergh

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Love needs to be proved by action - Saint Therese of Lisieux

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Before we love with our heart, we already love with our imagination - Louise Colet

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Love is the white light of emotion. - Diane Ackerman

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Love is a fruit in season at all times - Mother Teresa

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We love because its the only true adventure - Nikki Giovanni

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Love is the wild care of existence - Rita Mae Brown

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Love is the only thing that keeps me sane - Sue Townsend

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I always want to be in love, always. Its like being a tuning fork - Edna O’Brien

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Love is repaid by love alone - Saint Therese of Lisieux

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Till I loved, I never lived enough - Emily Dickinson

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What we have once enjoyed we can never lose. All that we love deeply becomes a part of us.

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It is impossible to repent of love. The sin of love does not exist - Muriel Spark

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Love is the same as like except you feel sexier - Judith Viorst

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Whoso loves Believes the impossible - Elizabeth Barrett Browning

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In love, everything is two and everything strives to be one - Octavio Paz

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Love knows hidden paths

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Love is a mutual self giving which ends in self recovery - Bishop Fulton J. Sheen

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How it improves people for us when we begin to love them - David Grayson

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Love for one person implies love for man as such - Erich Fromm

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Love between a man and woman is really just a kind of breathing - D.H. Lawrence

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Respect is love in plain clothes - Frankie Byrne

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I will be the pattern of all patience - William Shakespeare

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Never change when love has found its home - Sextus Aurelius Propertius

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Love knows nothing of order - Saint Jerome

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Love comforteth like sunshine after rain - William Shakespeare

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Love sought is good, but giv’n unsought is better - William Shakespeare

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If there is anything better than to be loved, it is loving

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The way to love anything is to realize that it might be lost - Gilbert K. Chesterton

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I never knew how to worship until I knew how to love - Henry Ward Beecher

  
 

COMMUNICATION - CONVERSATION LINES FOR A FIRST DATE

There is nothing worse, when meeting someone for the first time, than that awkward silence after the initial greeting. Kick the silence into orbit with these conversation starters: 

* How was your day?

* You look really nice, where did you get (item in question)?

* How was work?

* Have you seen any movies recently? How did you like it/them?

* What kind of music do you listen to?

* What sports do you play or like? How long have you played for?

* What interesting things did you do this weekend (week)?

* Have you ever been to (a local restaurant)?

* What kind of foods do you like?

* Where are you from?

* Where did you go to school/college?

* Have you read any good books lately? Was it interesting?

* What do you normally do for fun?

* Do you like (an interest of yours)?

* What's the neatest place you've traveled to?

* What's one place you haven't traveled to yet that you really want to go?

These simple ideas will get the conversation flowing and you will find out what the other is interested in. Be sure to listen carefully to what the other person says so that you can ask follow-up questions while learning new things.

THE BEST WAYS TO MEET A MAN TO DATE

THE BEST WAYS TO MEET A MAN TO DATE

1. Do not develop hard-and-fast rules about the ways you’re willing to go about your search. Some women, for instance, have a policy against being fixed up. But you need to be flexible and willing to experiment with a variety of strategies, particularly if you find yourself in a drought. My theory has always been that a winning prospect only comes around every six to seven blind dates, so you may have to chitchat with five chumps in order to get there. You also need to be flexible about the places you go to meet guys. If you head to the same bars all the time, you’re going to see the same old guys or the same type. There are always interesting new ways to meet men, and you need to keep your ear to the ground to hear what’s hot at a given moment. It keeps changing. One minute networking cocktail parties are all the rage, and the next something else is. I heard lately, for instance, that day spas are starting to offer times when singles can mingle. 

2. Be unashamedly proactive and methodical. Cold-hearted calculation doesn’t seem like a very magical approach to meeting the love of your life, but there will be plenty of time for magic once you’re dating. Tell yourself that you will do at least two specific things every week to facilitate your quest. And when opportunities present themselves, make things happen rather than just allowing them to unfold. For instance, if you see a hotty and there doesn’t seem to be an easy way to meet him, accidentally bump into him, for God’s sake. 

3. If you are going to a party, bar or event, don’t travel in huge wolf packs of women. It’s hard to break into a group that size, plus it’s easy for a guy to think that the moment he turns around after talking to you, all the other chicks are going to laugh hysterically about a comment he made or even the pants he’s wearing. Two is an OK number (you and a friend), but three is even better because one friend has a pal to talk to if you start chatting someone up. 

4. Avoid being too glam. When you’re all dolled up, you may feel like a man magnet, but guys are often put off by too much product. Lots of makeup and tons of designer labels scream high-maintenance, and guys don’t like that. One other tip: Consider wearing something that could be a conversation-starter, like a t-shirt with something funny written on it or a faux-fur vest that a guy may ask to touch. 

5. Have a drink in your hand. We once had a girl write a piece about her experience being a wing woman someone hired by shy guys to chat up women in bars and then introduce them. She provided a great tip: Don’t stand around empty-handed. If you’re holding a drink, a guy won’t feel he has to immediately buy one for you. But then later, if things are going well, ordering you a refill gives him something positive to do. 

6. Do not be too coy. Guys, as we know, like the chase. But if you seem too elusive, guys won’t approach. These days, men shy away from the slightest chance of rejection. So what’s a coy move that works? Make eye contact with an object of desire, hold for three seconds, and then look away. Repeat. If he’s interested, you’ve given him a pretty clear signal that it’s safe to head your way. Once you’re talking to a guy, you don’t want to be all over him. But let him know in a more subtle manner that you’re interested for instance, by laying your hand on his arm when you make a point. 

7. When there is an adorable guy suddenly in your path, don’t be so worried about saying the perfect thing that you end up saying nothing at all. As long as you seem friendly, you’ll be OK, so just get something out. Asking for help is a surefire conversation-starter. If you’re in an electronics store, try “Excuse me, could you tell me the difference between LCD and plasma screen TVs?” Humor can work, too. If you’re standing by an elevator, you could slyly say, “I hear that pressing the button 20 or 30 times actually does make it come faster.” Another good trick: playfully polling a guy. An example: “I’m taking a survey for the bar. Did you have to drive more than five miles to get here?” You could also come up with a question about yourself, like: “Do you think I should get blue contact lenses?” 

8. Be positive. A few years ago I arranged for a single friend of mine to sit next to a hot guy at a charity dinner. Through the night, I watched them from my table and I had every reason to believe things were going well. But later the guy told me that my friend had offered up an endless stream of negative riffs. She hated the subway, her boss, teacup dogs, e.t.c. She thought that confessing things she didn’t like was a way of bonding with him, but guys are turned off by negativity. 

9. Really hear what he has to say. When you’re nervous, it’s easy to become overly self-conscious. You might ask a guy you’ve just met plenty of questions, but be so worried about what to say next that you don’t pay close attention to his answers. Here’s a trick to help you focus: Wait a few beats after he says something and think about what he’s said. Then allow your next comment or question to really play off what he’s told you.

THE BEST WAYS TO FIND TRUE LOVE

THE BEST WAYS TO FIND TRUE LOVE

Look at the one right beside you

It's very common for single people to spend their time searching and searching for the "right person." Zen suggests that we stop running around and instead see what is right in front of our eyes.

Look at a person who is close to you in your life right now. Whether this is a friend, a potential mate or more, notice the ways in which you push him away. Stop doing that. Just allow the two of you to be together in whatever way you are. Accept everything about your relationship as it is.

Do the same thing tomorrow with someone else. This doesn't mean that you have to consider marrying every person who crosses your path. It's just an exercise to see how commonly you might dismiss people who are already in your world because you're busy waiting for the "right one" to appear. But the more "right" you can be with everyone, the more you can open up to the very real possibilities of the present.
 

Stop playing around with love

So many singles complain that they are not loved. The reason for this can be quite simple. They are so busy playing games that potential partners never get to know who they really are.

What roles or games do you play in relationships? What roles do you expect others to assume? Chances are, you follow a pretty clear pattern, but the question is: Are you falling in love with the person, or with the role that he plays? If you're not sure about your roles, turn them around for a little while. Try playing different roles. Experiment with someone who plays roles that you are not accustomed to. Notice how that feels.

The goal is to become aware of the difference between who you are and the roles you play. Eventually you'll be able to let the roles go and simply be who you are -- which is a Zen-like state of being. Who you are is always lovable and beautiful. It's the roles that get in the way.
 

Let partners come and go

One major obstacle in living a life of love is the tendency to hold on. We grasp and cling to each other, preventing the freedom of love from rising on its own. Zen asks us to let go.

When someone comes into your life, let him come. Welcome the person, whoever he is. Enjoy what it is he brings, even if it's only for a short time.

When it is time for a person to go away, let him go. Do not turn the person's leaving into an experience of rejection, loss or abandonment. Realize that his leaving has nothing to do with you. It is simply time for him to go.

Do this with yourself as well. Let yourself come and go freely in life, and don't get caught in unnecessary chains. The more you free yourself and others, the more easily you fall in love.
 

Put your baggage down

Many feel that love is not possible unless all their demands are met. However, these same people are repeatedly amazed when they find that these demands don't lead to happiness. Instead, the demands are just obstacles to falling in love.

What are your "must haves" for relationships? If you're not sure, write out the list and take a good look at it. Realize that this is baggage that may be keeping all kinds of people and possibilities away. This baggage may also make you fearful, rigid and closed off to what is available for you right now. Zen asks us to break free of old demands.

Try letting one of these demands subside for just one day. Notice how you feel without it. (Remember, you can always take it back again.) Then try it another day. As you do this many times, you may find that things you thought were crucial for your life were really getting in the way. The more you do this, the more light and happy you will feel. Plus, this openness allows all kinds of new people, possibilities and situations to start coming your way. You will have made room for them by putting your baggage down.
 

Give gifts

Giving and receiving are at the core of every relationship. When we are in love, this is never a problem. We naturally give and are happy with whatever is offered in return. If you want to open up to falling in love, adopt this state of mind and start giving naturally.

What gifts do you give others in relationships? What do you hope to receive in return? Now take a moment to consider what else you can give someone. Then give it. Do this every day. Each day, give something else. It does not have to be fancy or expensive -- or even a material object -- just something that will add to his or her day. Then do this with all kinds of different people. Zen is about doing this kind of thing quietly without great fanfare and without expecting something in return.

Do this with yourself as well. Take a moment to find out what kind of gift you would like. Simple examples are taking a walk in the park, buying a new lipstick or spending time with someone you care for. Now give yourself a gift each day.

Although this exercise is simple, it is extremely powerful. Doing this daily can turn everything around in your relationships. When you give, remember not to look for anything in return (not even a smile or thank you). Just give to give, with no expectations, no demands. By living with this open, generous mind, all kinds of other gifts come to you naturally.
 

Make friends with yourself

Many people say they are lonely, even when they have a partner at their side. This is simply because they have not yet made friends with themselves. According to Zen, once you come to terms with yourself and appreciate who you are on a personal level, it is impossible to be lonely anymore.

Make friends with yourself. Spend time noticing who you are. Accept all parts of yourself. Stop judging and rejecting what is going on inside. Be still and look within.

Start with this exercise. Pay attention to your breath and just notice what is going on. Let it be. Accept it, and return to the breathing. Understand that, breath by breath, underneath the clamor, you are perfect just as you are. Can you choose to be this natural self in relationships? Can you choose to have relationships with those who want and appreciate just what you are? Making positive changes in your life -- and your relationships -- can start with something as simple as taking off your shoes.

MARRIAGE CAN CURE DEPRESSION

MARRIAGE CAN CURE DEPRESSION

With apologies to about thousands of stand up comedians, marriage may be the cure for depression, rather than the cause of it.

In fact, researchers say, people who experience depression before they get married are the most likely to get emotional health benefits from marriage. 

Using a depression scale whose scores ranged from zero to 84, the researchers found that the scores of depressed people went down by almost 8 points after marriage, while those who weren't depressed had just under a 2-point drop after marriage.

Even the study authors were surprised by their findings. "We thought people who were depressed would be less likely to benefit from marriage than others," said study co-author Kristi Williams, an assistant professor of sociology at Ohio State University in Columbus. "We thought depression would put a strain on the marriage."

Williams and her co-author, Adrianne Frech, a doctoral student at Ohio State, presented the results of their study August. 13 at the annual meeting of the American Sociological Association, in Montreal.

This research comes on the heels of another study that found that people who never marry had a greater chance of dying early than people who were married. In fact, people who'd never married had an even higher risk of early death than people who were divorced, separated or widowed, suggesting that marriage confers some sort of health benefit, even if it doesn't work out.

Using data from the National Survey of Families and Households, the Ohio State researchers gathered information on more than 3,000 people who were single at the start of the study in 1987-88. The survey participants were interviewed again sometime between 1992 and 1994.

To assess whether or not people were depressed, they were asked 12 questions, such as how many days in the past week they "felt like they could not shake off the blues, "felt lonely," or "slept restlessly."

About 29 percent were depressed at the start of the study, according to Williams.

During the second part of the study, they gathered information on who had gotten married and reassessed depression.

Williams said at that time, 30 percent of those who remained unmarried were depressed, while only 26 percent of those who got married were depressed.

The researchers found that those who were depressed seemed to gain the most mental health benefits from getting married, with depressed people enjoying nearly a six-point higher reduction in their depression scores after marriage than non-depressed people.

"We actually found the opposite of what we expected. We thought depressed people would be less likely to benefit from marriage because the depression of one spouse can put a strain on the marriage and undermine marital quality," Frech said in a prepared statement.

As to why depressed people may enjoy more benefits from matrimony, Williams theorized, "We think that depressed people may have more to gain from the emotional support and close intimate ties that come with marriage."

That doesn't mean people who aren't depressed won't have happy marriages, Williams quickly added: "If you start out happy, you don't have as far to go." 

The findings don't mean that depressed people should substitute marriage for depression treatment either, she said.

"This was just an average association," said Williams. "We're not saying that depressed individuals should run out and get married."

"Clearly, one should not look upon these results as recommending that depressed people should get married," said Dr. Charles Goodstein, a clinical professor of psychiatry at the New York University School of Medicine in New York City. "The likelihood is strong that such a marriage might fall apart." 

But, he added, these study results suggest that depressed people stand to gain more from marriage. "At the very least, the depressed person gets the sense that there's someone who cares about them."

However, Goodstein also pointed out that this particular survey may not accurately assess depression.

"Depression is a much more complicated matter than can be diagnosed on a survey. There is such a wide range of what we call depression, and many people can pass through society without being seen as depressed," he said.

Williams agreed that the survey used in this study can't be used to diagnose individual depression, but said it was designed to give an estimate of depression in a community population.

HOW TO REKINDLE A LONG TERM RELATIONSHIP

HOW TO REKINDLE A LONG TERM RELATIONSHIP

A happy, long-term relationship is great and something we all want. However, even the best and happiest long term relationships can suffer from routine sex. 

The sex might be good, but it is not what it used to be nor is it everything that it could be. While you might be content, what you really want is a way to spice things up and turn your good sex life into a fantastic sex life – and keep it that way. 

Be Spontaneous 

If you want it, do it. I don’t mean drop whatever you are doing and have sex wherever you happen to be when the urge strikes you – that might be inadvisable, particularly if you happen to be in public, or surrounded by children. 

Instead, let sex sometimes take priority over other trivial things that you normally would want to get done first. If you can afford the time, be ten minutes late to work because you were having a morning quicky. If you are cleaning up, watching television, or paying bills stop what you are doing, put it out of your mind and give into your desires. 

If it can wait – and most often it really can – then let it wait. 

Try Something New 

This applies to what you do in the bedroom as much as to time spent out of it. Outside of the bedroom try doing something that both of you have never done before. Go sky diving, rock climbing, try new food, take dance lessons, travel. Spending exciting quality time together serves to cement your bond and makes physical intimacy that much more fulfilling. 

In the bedroom, spend some time talking candidly about your fantasies, old and new. Try your best not to judge each other so that you can both be as open as possible. At the same time don’t be afraid to say that you are uncomfortable with something, but express this in a non-judgmental way in terms of personal preference rather than a put down. 

Don’t say: “Ewww what kind of weirdo would want that? I can’t believe I’ve been dating you for (fill in the blank)!” Try to say: “Interesting, but just not my thing.” 

Once you have found something new you both want to try, explore it fully and enjoy! 

Dress Up 

Once you’ve found someone it’s easy to slack off in terms of your physical appearance. While it’s healthy to be able to be around someone with bad hair in crummy clothes, it’s equally important to take some time every now and again to try. 

You might want to wear something sexy to bed, work on toning your body, or get dressed up for a night out on the town. 

Compliment Each Other

Pretty much everyone likes to be told they are good-looking. Some are more modest than others but you would be hard pressed to find someone who truly dislikes being told that they are attractive. 

Compliments help build self-esteem and a more confident lover will be more likely to try new and exciting things or throw themselves into what they are doing. 

Also, giving compliments helps both partners feel appreciated, needed and loved. Often, once you have been with someone for a while it is easy to forget to compliment them as often as you used to, the rationale being something along the lines of: “well I told them before and they know it”. 

It’s always pleasant to be reminded and to be reassured of the fact that your lover feels as attracted to you now as they did on day one. 

Teasing & Foreplay 

Don’t always get right to it. Sometimes, getting what you want right away can be tremendously satisfying. However, if you are always instantly satisfied, you might begin to take sex and your partner for granted. You will begin to feel entitled and sex will become just something you expect. 

In order to prevent this from happening, or remedy it once it has, build up to the moment. Tease each other throughout the day. Express desire without immediately fulfilling it. Once you have each other alone, cuddle, kiss and make out for as long as you can before actually getting down to business. 

Forget About the Bed 

This pretty much means have sex anywhere but on your bed. Try the floor, a chair, the kitchen table, the shower, or if you are feeling particularly risqué, do it outside. 

I’ve heard some pretty bizarre locations mentioned, among them: the mall after hours, a tree in a field, on a building, a forest and a golf course at night. It’s not necessary to go quite so extreme; the main point is to explore intimacy in a location that you would not normally.

HOW TO PLEASE A WOMAN - KNOWING WHAT WOMEN WANT

Okay, so it is true. Women can be complicated creatures. But what human being isn’t? Although we each have our own needs, quirks and foibles, when it comes down to it, there are a few basic things that every woman wants. Now it’s up to the men to pay attention. 

It’s amazing to me how many articles, television shows, movies, songs, and books exist about male and female relationships. And how sadly accurate many of them are. With all this material out there, why do so many problems still exist between men and women? 

The Gender Gap 

Men aren’t listening. And I don’t really blame them. I don’t even like Sex and the City so I can’t expect my boyfriend to faithfully watch every episode and quote it like some almighty dating bible. Although that show is full of things that men would (rightfully) cringe at, there are points to heed. Namely, cliches exist for a reason. 

The things that seem painfully obvious to women are going unnoticed by men, likely because they haven’t spent hours happily identifying with women indulging in insecurities and sharing laughs about terrible dates. So women – give your man a break here and realize that although you feel inundated with ideas for dating, romance and sex, many men have put the blinders on because those things just don’t seem important to them. That is, until they are left out in the cold, heartbroken because the girl of their dreams gave them the boot for seemingly no reason. 

Pay Attention Boys 

Here’s the thing – women want a few basic things: trust, loyalty, friendship, laughs, respect. And a satisfying sex life. Nothing earth shattering. 

Here’s where we get annoyed – when things about women that seem built into pop culture, escape your minds. I understand that you may not want to watch Oprah and see every “chick flick” out there but there are certain things that you really should know by now. 

To clarify:
· We do not like to be called fat. 
· We need foreplay. 
· We like to be called if you are going to be late. These are three little things that can make a huge difference in a relationship. Maybe they don’t seem like a big deal to you men or maybe you don’t understand, but we don’t need you to. Just do them. Please. 

Be a Gentleman 

If you want to go above and beyond the basics, it’s also good to keep in mind that women like to be treated nicely. Again, I wouldn’t think you’d have to be told and I’m sure many of you don’t, but lately I’ve been hearing some pretty incredible stories from friends. In one story, a guy asked my friend out, took her to a bar, ordered her a drink and then summoned her to come pay for hers. Boy was she swept off her feet! 

Don’t get me wrong, neither she, nor I, nor most women are looking for Mr. Fancy Pants to wine and dine us and spend all his money on us. Negative stereotypes of men and women don’t help us get any closer to understanding each other. It’s not the saved money and free drinks we appreciate, it’s the chivalry, the extra effort. That little gesture that says I care. It doesn’t have to be monetary, it can be holding a door, a compliment, even just turning off the cell phone while you are out together. 

Mutual Appreciation 

I’m sure no man goes out with the intention of annoying a girl or being insensitive. There are differences between how men and women relate, so it should be expected on both ends by now that things don’t always progress seamlessly. 

The effort really does make a difference. We are all from different walks of life and have different expectations for each other and for life in general. Women want to be appreciated, as I’m sure men do. It may seem crazy to you if a girl flies off the handle because you were an hour late, but the thing is, women can be a little crazy. Evidently unbeknownst to some of you, women spend hours primping and preparing for dates, for our boyfriends, even for our husbands. Legs must be shaved, makeup applied, hair done so that we feel attractive and sexy for you! 

If a woman does something nice for you and you notice, (please tell me you notice), tell her. If she cooks you dinner, try to return the favor. Be honest and supportive and she will do the same for you.

HOW TO OVERCOME JEALOUSY IN A RELATIONSHIP

Jealousy is a human emotion that we all instinctively experience at some point in our lives. Jealousy can refer to a strong desire for or envy of someone else’s success, stature, or possessions. 

Taken in a social context, it can refer to a perceived threat to a valued relationship or to its quality. Jealousy may cause someone to be doubtful of his or her partner and feel threatened by his or her interaction with certain people. It involves a fear of losing the other person. 

There are different kinds of jealousy and educating yourself on them may help you and your partner develop a stronger relationship. 

Healthy Jealousy 

Jealousy doesn’t necessarily indicate negative connotations in all cases. After all, it is quite natural for men and women to be protective and possessive of the one that they love. In a relationship, when feelings of jealousy are mild and occasional, it reminds the couple not to take each other for granted. It can encourage couples to appreciate one another and make an effort to ensure the other person feels valued. 

Having reservations about your significant other going to a strip club, the sight of him or her drooling over an attractive person of the opposite sex, or witnessing him or her flirting with someone else are innocent examples of how jealousy can be a perfectly normal reaction. 

Destructive Jealousy 

Sometimes, jealous feelings can balloon out of proportion. It is a completely different story when jealousy becomes frequent, intense, and irrational. Once you reach this stage, you obsessively begin to question your lover’s loyalty to you and it sends you into a blind rage. You may even try to restrict your partner’s interactions with other people and constantly monitor where he or she goes and what he or she does. 

If you can’t control your jealousy, it is bound to be detrimental to your relationship. It eats away at the most important thing holding it together – trust. It can leave your loved one constantly feeling like they are walking on eggshells. 

If you find yourself drifting into the realm of harmful and unhealthy jealousy, there are things you can do to prevent it from ruining your current and future relationships. 

Identify the Root of the Problem 

What is causing this unfounded jealousy? You may behave this way because you have been cheated on in the past. This may cause you to be more possessive and controlling in a new relationship for fear of repetition, even if he or she has never given you a reason to be doubtful. 

If this is the case, it is important to deal with these feelings and insecurities before you enter a new relationship. Harboring unresolved feelings from past relationships is a sure sign that you aren’t ready for a new one. 

Give yourself a Reality Check 

Focus on what is really happening, not what you perceive to be happening. How realistic is the threat? What evidence do you have that your relationship is in danger? Distinguish fact from fiction. 

If you have no solid grounds for feeling jealous, your false accusations will cause a lot of unnecessary strain on the relationship. Don’t let your imagination draw a negative picture of your partner. 

Positive Self-Talk 

Sometimes, you need to give yourself a pep talk. When you start feeling those twinges of jealousy, remind yourself that your partner loves you and is committed to you. Realize that he or she is with you for a reason. These self-affirmations can help you boost your confidence. 

Seek Reassurance 

If you can’t talk yourself out of a jealous funk, perhaps communicating your feelings will help resolve your insecurities. One of the best ways to beat jealousy is to ask your partner for reassurance. Make sure you don’t take an accusatory, nagging, or bullying tone with him or her. Instead, share your feelings of doubt and ask them to help you overcome them.

By communicating your feelings, you can work out solutions together. 

Get an Objective Opinion 

Ask a close friend to take note of your behaviour around your boyfriend or girlfriend. Sometimes, you aren’t fully aware of your actions, especially when emotions like jealousy cloud your judgment. By getting a neutral party’s perspective, it can help you fully understand the extent of your actions.

A good friend will let you know if your behaviour is out of control and destructive. 

Set Boundaries from the Start 

Try establishing some general guidelines at the beginning of the relationship. Let your partner know what is and isn’t acceptable for you. Be careful not to use this piece of advice as a means to control your boyfriend or girlfriend, just let him or her know what makes you tick.

For example, how far is too far when it comes to flirting? Telling your partner what makes you uncomfortable can also help you trust him or her more since you are divulging sensitive feelings.

SIGNS OF AN ATTRACTIVE MAN

SIGNS OF AN ATTRACTIVE MAN

Attractiveness doesn't only come as looks. Regardless of how good looking you are, if you don't know what to do, what not to do, what to say, and what not to say, your chance of landing your dream girl is slim to none. 

Most often, popular guys are not the ones with celebrity looks, but the ones who have mastered themselves in the art of “true attractiveness.” For those still struggling with what makes men truly attractive to women, I offer some advice.

Be Responsible

You are going on a date with your girlfriend, you are driving, and luckily, you get stuck in traffic. Suddenly, you start venting about how everyone should just stay home and not bring their stupid cars out just to jam the street. You complain about how the road system in the city sucks and how you will not be able to make it to the movie on time. What would your girlfriend think of you? 

How about using that time to have a conversation about something you haven't spoken about so far? You are the one who initiated the date, so why not try to make the most out of this not-so-pleasant situation? 

Instead of venting at everybody, which does nothing more than show how immature you are, start a conversation about the movie you will be seeing that evening. Or, if you have that sense of humour, crack a few jokes, which is totally harmless. Your girlfriend will definitely notice how hard you are trying to lighten up the situation - and she'll enjoy it, too.

Be Humble

Every person this planet values humility as one of the greatest human virtues. Women like men who are confident but at the same time, humble. As a society, we sometimes take humility to mean lack of confidence, but humility and confidence can definitely go together. When such a combination is found in a man, a woman will definitely be attracted. 

Loosen Up

What's even more important than the look is the voice. A Man who has a low tone of voice and relaxed shoulders exudes confidence and appeal to women. They see him as reliable. If you look too strained, even though your portfolio might be stellar, women generally will not find you as attractive.

The Little Things Matter

Kindness is good, but if kindness is the only thing going for you, you are out of luck. Add a tough side to your kindness and you will boost your score on the popularity scale.

If your girlfriend is struggling with the menu, take the lead and say, “Why don't we try this? It's really good. You will like it.” Don't just sit there and keep asking, “So, what do you want?” There is a difference between rushing her and taking the lead. The latter is a very good thing! You are sure to earn a few extra points.

Be an Entertainer

An entertainer doesn't have to be on TV every night. If you have what it takes to make your girlfriend laugh, cry, smile, and frown, then you are her entertainer. 

Love must be true and genuine, but just for now, treat your relationship like stage. Think about each scene, where each character is and what they will say. Think about how the play will begin and end. Make her the heroine and you, her prince charming.

Every girl says they want to meet prince charming, and he is character straight out of a story. You may not be prince charming but you can be the closest thing there is.

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